Leaving the house after stoma surgery | by Rachel

Navigating life with a newly formed stoma can feel overwhelming, especially when it comes time to leave the house. As you heal and adapt to daily life, the urge to step outside becomes inevitable. If you’re a parent, you might find yourself needing to jump back into your responsibilities with little choice in the matter. While this can sound daunting, it has its advantages: pushing through your comfort zone forces you to confront challenges head-on. However, it’s essential to give yourself the time and energy to tackle this transition at your own pace, though many may not have that luxury.

Preparing for your first outing

For your first outing, I highly recommend taking a family member or friend who you feel comfortable with, particularly in case of any leaks or if you require help. I struggled to balance my want to engage in activities with the reality that my stoma was causing my problems. This led to frequent leaks. Once while I was enjoying coffee and cake with my best friend, I experienced an embarrassing leak that forced me to go home and shower. In hindsight, I shouldn’t have felt so distraught. I should have brought spare clothes, considering my situation at the time. Remember, being overly prepared is never a bad thing. Ensure you’re as ready as possible, and cherish those who support you – keep your tribe close.

Choosing your destination

When planning your outings, choose activities that feel right for you. If you’re someone who typically enjoys being active and your doctor has cleared you, a simple walk can be just the ticket! If shopping is more your style, go to locations with accessible toilets. Carrying a radar key and a ‘can’t wait’ card can provide added peace of mind, allowing you to access toilets quickly if needed.

Mental preparations and essentials

Mentally preparing yourself by envisioning various scenarios and how to overcome them can be beneficial. I do the same with my kids, who also have stomas. Have your stoma bag change kit ready to go whether in your bag or car; I keep one in both. Mini-sized products, like a 50ml spray, are perfect for portability. For long trips, if you experience high output and need to empty in the car, using a nappy to line the waste bag can help contain any mess, preventing liquid waste from spilling in your car. As I type this, I am touching wood!

Don’t forget…

Everyone’s journey is unique. What feels appropriate for one person may feel entirely different for another due to various circumstances and responsibilities. Maintaining a positive mindset and being prepared will set you up for success; however, accidents can happen. Remember, you’ve undergone significant surgery, and if setbacks occur, know that recovery isn’t linear. It might spoil your day, but it doesn’t have to define the rest of your time living with a stoma. Reach out to people, and know you are not alone.

Rach
@gutsy.mum